Join me and a group of women as we explore the practical ways to enhance our own joy, independent from our partners or external circumstances.
As I am discovering in my own relationship, that focusing on my joy first and foremost is VITAL. This isn't to mean that I am not empathetic, or that my relationship doesn't make me happy...
It’s absolutely essential. to be able to empower ourselves if we desire to have an emotionally regulated and balanced relationship.
Here’s how it goes:
We are happy, vibrant, autonomous.
We magnetize our love into our lives. They enhance the joy. We forget that we ARE joy and were joy before we met them, so we mistakenly believe that the joy we feel is coming soley from them.
Then, we put pressure onto them to meet all of our needs, wants, & to make us feel happy & safe & secure. And when sometime arises in life or within us that feels uncomfortable, we look to them to fix it.
That’s not to say people can’t comfort, offer strength & support.
But putting the pressure of them being responsible for how happy we are all of the time will surely lead to breakdown.
The anxiety & tension that arises. The expectations & pressure. It suffocates. It dissolves the gratitude & freedom that we feel from the purity of love.
The solution? To self-source happiness.
To remember that we are in charge of making ourselves happy.
Then, we bring that happiness to our partners. We share it with them. It magnifies our joy.